Posted on November 22nd, 2022.

The feeling that rises up when an outside influence gains more attention from a person, place(s), or thing that you cover, own, or possess. Paul says it is a sin and yet there are many versus’ that state God is a jealous God.

Let’s set up the parameters:

• God is a jealous God.
• He created human beings in his image.
• If we feel jealousy like God, then why is it said that it is a sin? 
• Is God’s jealousy a sin?

Let’s start to answer these questions to gain new insight.

Is God jealous of sin?

No! He already said that death and Hades will be thrown into the lake of fire- Revelation 20:14.

If God is not jealous of sin or the object of our sin then what is God jealous of?

He is jealous of our attention.

You shall not have any god’s before me -Exodus 20:3, Deuteronomy 6:5.

Jesus said the greatest commandment is to love The Lord God with all your heart, soul, and strength -Matthew 22:37 

God gets to the root by addressing our attention.

Let’s look at a couple of examples to better illustrate this point.

Example 1… A couple has been married for three years. They have been so in love, they chose to get pregnant. Nine months later, they give birth to a newborn baby boy. The wife is so ecstatic about the baby that she diverts most of her time and energy to care for the baby. The husband starts off loving the child in every way. Work plus sleepless nights, however, becomes more and more of a stressful reality. The husband begins to look for ways to be loved. He even tries to initiate sex with his wife, only to be met with her being too tired. Why is she too tired? Whether or not she realized it, she instinctively put the needs of the baby ahead of her husband.

The husband gets jealous.
Is it a sin for the husband to get jealous?
*Yes, if he is jealous of the baby.
*No, if he gets to the root of his problem.
He is jealous of his wife’s attention.

Example 2… A couple has been married for ten years. They have a lot of the same friends. One day the wife goes to the store and sees the wife of her husband’s friend. It is on this day the wife finds out that her husband was seen hugging another woman that she doesn’t know.
The wife gets jealous.
Is it a sin for the wife to get jealous?
*Yes, if she is jealous of the woman.
*No, if she gets to the root of her problem.
She is jealous of her husband’s attention.

Example 3… A man and woman have been dating for awhile. They met at a bar and shortly thereafter became sexually involved. A few days later, the woman found out her boyfriend had been cheating on her since the start of their relationship. He told her he didn’t think it was an issue because he saw on her phone that she was still talking to other guys with erotic discretion.
She became jealous. He just doesn’t care.
Is it a sin for the girlfriend to feel jealous?
*Yes, if she is jealous of the other woman.
*No, if she gets to the root of the problem.
She is jealous of her boyfriends divided attention.

Now I know what you’re thinking… What about all the cheating? I don’t condone any of it. This post is specifically geared to shed light on jealousy, however if this situation sounds familiar…

Jealousy is a caution type feeling. The feeling itself isn’t wrong. It has a purpose like any other feeling. It’s all about what you do with it. In all three of the earlier examples, if the jealous person chose to sin, the situation could get compounded through envy or covetousness. Jealousy also alerts us of an alignment issue, an originated threat from an outside influence, warning us of a possible internal shift change within the the person, place, or thing we hold dear.

A lot of times people don’t want to face the issue within the object of their affection so they divert their hatred towards the outside influence. That’s wrong because it doesn’t solve the problem. It’s not what’s wrong on the outside, it’s the way both parties handle the outside influence within each other.

 The person with the cautionary alert has to understand that the best thing to do is be honest. Talk about the lack of attention or a situation with which said person feels as though something could happen. Also consider if there is a lack of trust in the other or themselves. All of this needs to be discussed and can be resolved in a pleasing way. It is demonic to think getting mad, finding others is the way to solve problems .

The person with the divided attention must understand that the way to solve issues is not through the desire or lust in something or someone else. A divided mind will cause problems. If your spouse, partner, or whoever hasn’t been listening to you, TRY DIFFERENT OPTIONS! Running into the arms of another human being to sin is not trying to save anything. It is the intentional process of destroying your home!

I mentioned that sinful, unchecked jealousy can get worse. It can get redirected and compounded through covetousness or envy.

Covetousness is lusting or longing for with great desire after something or someone that is not yours. For example… Imagine getting jealous of your spouse. The miscommunication drives you to think of someone else. It’s like your thoughts lead you to want to be with someone else’s spouse because you know they treat their house well. It doesn’t have to be another spouse. It can be anyone you choose to desire and long for outside of your house or marriage.

Envy is the painful realization that someone or something has an advantage over you and you want that advantage. This is usually the gateway into deeper, darker wickedness.

Understanding jealousy is a major game changer to experience the freedom in love. If the feeling is dealt with at it’s root, it turns into a simple conversation that something doesn’t feel right. Such as, “Can you pay more attention to me please?” Thing’s like this are understandable and easy to prevent, terrible situations from happening.

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God bless you and yours. Stay Salty!

Amen